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arg · 01-17-2005, 11:42 PM

I'd echo some of the other recent advice - get your name and identity removed from your porn business...use a company name (at least file a DBA, or better yet incorporate), and use a PO Box.

I hate to say it, but if you're using your real name on domain info, I think your dad has a point. Even DBAs are a matter of public record, and ten years from now maybe it will be extremely easy to google your personal identity from a ten-year-old company name. The records will last forever - who owned the sites, what was on them, and quite a few more details if any legal action arises. And that will limit more than public office. You'll be googleable by prospective dates, prospective employers, prospective inlaws, heck even your descendents generations from now if they get an inkling to research you. Porn is becoming more acceptable to younger Americans, but certainly not universally, and your association with it could be viewed negatively by quite a few people. I mean I have no idea what you want to do, but say you ultimately decide you want to teach 7th graders for a living. If your name is tied to the sites, odds are, your students and your community will eventually become aware of it. No legal consequence, but people will talk, and it will affect your career. Your future inlaws may find out about it and react negatively...it's easy to say "well fuck 'em if they don't like porn," but it sucks to have added stress like that in your life. Say your future wife has fertility problems and you want to adopt - it could look bad to church-based adoption agencies if it comes out in a background check for your application. Say you get divorced and are fighting for custody of your kids, and your wife brings up this history with a conservative anti-porn judge. It's easy to say "well fuck anyone who cares," but the association can follow you around, and it certainly can affect your life negatively, whether you think it ought to or not.

If you get out now, or at least shield your identity well from now on, you can at least pass it off as college-aged foolishness if it comes back to haunt you in ten years. I would say if you're going to continue in the biz, be honest with your dad, that you don't personally see anything wrong with porn, but also let him know that you're taking his "haunt you" warning seriously, and explain your intent to carefully shield your personal identity.

01-17-2005, 11:42 PM
arg Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 1,164	I'd echo some of the other recent advice - get your name and identity removed from your porn business...use a company name (at least file a DBA, or better yet incorporate), and use a PO Box. I hate to say it, but if you're using your real name on domain info, I think your dad has a point. Even DBAs are a matter of public record, and ten years from now maybe it will be extremely easy to google your personal identity from a ten-year-old company name. The records will last forever - who owned the sites, what was on them, and quite a few more details if any legal action arises. And that will limit more than public office. You'll be googleable by prospective dates, prospective employers, prospective inlaws, heck even your descendents generations from now if they get an inkling to research you. Porn is becoming more acceptable to younger Americans, but certainly not universally, and your association with it could be viewed negatively by quite a few people. I mean I have no idea what you want to do, but say you ultimately decide you want to teach 7th graders for a living. If your name is tied to the sites, odds are, your students and your community will eventually become aware of it. No legal consequence, but people will talk, and it will affect your career. Your future inlaws may find out about it and react negatively...it's easy to say "well fuck 'em if they don't like porn," but it sucks to have added stress like that in your life. Say your future wife has fertility problems and you want to adopt - it could look bad to church-based adoption agencies if it comes out in a background check for your application. Say you get divorced and are fighting for custody of your kids, and your wife brings up this history with a conservative anti-porn judge. It's easy to say "well fuck anyone who cares," but the association can follow you around, and it certainly can affect your life negatively, whether you think it ought to or not. If you get out now, or at least shield your identity well from now on, you can at least pass it off as college-aged foolishness if it comes back to haunt you in ten years. I would say if you're going to continue in the biz, be honest with your dad, that you don't personally see anything wrong with porn, but also let him know that you're taking his "haunt you" warning seriously, and explain your intent to carefully shield your personal identity.