spacedog

I just read all the replies & I appreciate all the help from those of you who offered it.. Hyper, hungryman, sleazydream, smegma, all of you. thanks... I appreciate all the advice too.. nice to know what towns/areas are good to move to.. but, I am not sure about moving so far from my wife & children.. I am still confused & upset, but I am feeling a little better after chatting with so many people on icq last night. & in particular a lengthy chat with Hungryman.. Thank you Paul for having confidence in my ability to overcome this & succed in this biz as well.. I'll contact you tonight about what we talked about.. The emotions I've been going through must've really taken their toll on me.. I actually slept for 13 hours when I usually sleep for only 5 or 6..I possibly may have slept longer if it were not for the mail lady knocking on the door with certified mail.. from my mom.. I am more concerned & confused than I was before....... And for those of you who have mentioned that I did'nt tell the whole story.. you are absolutely correct... Let me fill you in on some things.. because I am concerned over this new development & not sure what to do over it & how to overcome it.. I'd hire a lawyer, but that's not an option while in my current state... first let me tell you a little bit of history.... back in december when my car broke, the car was towed back to the cape, to the garage across the street from my moms, & the state trooper drove use to her house.. .. Now, it being christmas & all, my wife & I had to leave moms to go visit my wifes parents & her family, but my mom also had her plans to visit friends & other family, so my mom was unable to drive use to maine.. so, my wife & I, & our oldest daughter had to do the bus & train & taxi thing to get to salem, masss to see her family.. now, because it was cold & winter december.. we were concerned about our youngest daughter going through that ordeal & my mom suggested that my youngest stay with her for a couple of days & mom said she'd bring her home in a couple of days.... well, those couple of days kept stretching to more days, then weeks, now it's been 4 months.. my moms always had some lame ass excuse why she cant come drive to maine & bring my daughter home....from 12/24 to 2/14 she had every excuse possible to not bring her home..but finally she brought her home on 2/14.. anyway.... my baby had a doctors appointment, that my mother scheduled for the 15th.. my wife & I were upset over this, because my mother used that as a previous excuse to avoid bringing her home... so, mom says," I'll bring her to the doctor & then I'll come back in a couple of days.." couple of days pass & I call mom.. she says she'll come over on the weekend.. that never happened... I called.. no answer.. I call everyday for a couple of weeks.. no answer.. next, collect calls are now no longer accepted.. so I buy some phone cards.. still no luck getting through.. but finally, just about 2 weeks ago, I get through & she says she'll come over with the baby.. but she never arrives.. I call her house & talk to her boyfriend,.,, he says "Oh.. her car broke down"... Now I think that is plain bullshit. her car is brand new.. a 2001 echo.. brand new cars dont just break down.... so.. when I get ahold of mom.. she has more excuses.. now she's asking.. where are you moving to.. I don't have an answer for her, cuz I really don't know my self... my wife & I wanted to move out of main & back to salem, near her friends & family, or possibly somewhere new, in another state..we were not sure.. but we wanted our daughter back & wanted to be far away from my mom as possible.. we no longer wanted her in our life as my mom has shown to us that she is a controling & manipulative woman & my mom was trying to control our lives. saying things like.. "you should live in the cape so I can help you".. which is bullshit, cuz when we had the fire, she told us the same thing.. come to the cape & stay with me & i'll help you.. this is how she helped us.. after we left the hotel we stayed at.. & went to her house,.,.after 3 days she was like.. jesus.. it's been 3 days & you still havent found an apartment.. what the fucks wrong with you.. on & on with her verbal abuse, etc.. my mom is a chronic alchoholic.. during our stay there, my wife & I had to endure the drunkeness of my mom & her friends..all her drunken buddies sloshing around the house.. she was also mean to my oldest daughter.. moms boyfriend also hurt my oldest daughter.. & that pissed me off.,..we also purchased a couple hundred dollars of food...all that food was wiped out in 2 days because of my mothers drunken friends.. & then my mother gets abusive & yells at me & my wife, calling us losers saying we eat her out of house & home... when it was my wife & I that payed for the food....anyway.. we moved into a hotel in onset, in the cape..it was $300 a week,, problem though.. I worked 45 hours a week at robinson salvage, & my take home after taxes was $320 a week... we couldnt get by. so.. my wife says she dont like my mom, & she wants to go back to north shore.. cuz I made at least $500 a week driving the cab.. so , thats what we did..as a result.. my moms going around telling relatives how she tried to help us, & says we couldve stayed with her, blah, blah.. but it was her that was constantly bitching & complaining that we cant stay there.. she invited us to stay, but then later turned around & said we can't.. thats why we went to a hotel from her house....anyway.. back to current events...
so.. my mom's still trying to control how my wife & I live.. she fails to realize that it is my wife & I's decision on where we will live & not hers... for the last 4 months my mom had the excuse.. you guys don't know where you're going to move.. I'm only trying to help you.. blah,.blah.. etc.. she's been using that same excuse since december, that when april came thatb we'd be moving, & she continually says we should move to the cape.. problem is.. my wife & I dont want my meddlesome mother in our life.. we also did not like the experience we had looking for an apartment, or jobs in the cape.. there's shit jobs, & no apartments.. It's another nowhere, tourist towns... anyway's.. I know I'm rambling.. mom had my daughter from december & still has her & continually refused to bring her home.. bullshit.. who does she think she is to refuse to bring her home.,.. so. this past weekend,, we finally convince her to show up for my oldest daughters birthday, & she was to drive my wife & daughters to my wifes parents so they can see the kids.. BUT.. my youngest daughter is not in the car.. ???????
so.. I ask mom.. where is she.. she says, oh.. shes with your sister.. HUH? mom says my sister is bringing her back to her house once she gets home.. & I said to mom.. what're you talking about.. We wanted you to bring her home to us.,.. she's our daughter, you cant keep her.. we want her back & we want her back now...now my mother goes back to her damned 4 month old excuses.. "But you don't know where your going to live yet.. I aint giving her back to you if I don't know where your going to live" .. So.. i tell my mother.. you give us our child back, or I call the police & have you arrested for kidnapping.. so, mom takes off...