doesn't sound like a trust issue, sounds more like he's insecure. my
look at the bigger picture, you said you worked hard to stay together, so there must be something good about him, something that you love. Yeah it hurts to have someone snoop through your personal things, but you obviously have nothing to hide, and it's not your problem that is something he needs to work on. Also keep in mind that when you are upset, disapointed, angry or whatever it's hard to communicate. Write your husband a letter and while you are writing it pretend that he is listening with an open mind and heart. Start with why you are angry, tell him what you hate, then why you're sad, then fear, then regret, then love and after that tell him what you need to hear from him, if you need him to tell you that he loves you, trusts and appriciates you and you can work things out, then tell him that. Just don't give up on your marriage just yet.