My husband's acting like an idiot.
We soft swing..meaning, he doesn't share, but I do. Well, we always had this ongoing thing-I always said I wouldn't want him with anyone who weighed less than he does (and he's a skinny mo-fo). But a week or so ago I lifted his restriction, because I don't feel insecure anymore. He could bang the best-looking chick and have a kick-ass time, and even if she was a better fuck, he'd be back b/c he loves me, and I'm pretty fucking special, and that's what I told him. Well, he immediately became suspicious, and started going through my emails and IM logs, and it is really really pissing me off. To me, no trust plus no respect (which is what he did by snooping) equals why the fuck are we still together?
There are lots of other side-issues, but this is the icing on the cake and I can't stand to be around him now. I don't want to talk to him, I don't want to sleep in the same bed with him, and I really don't want to fuck him. So what do I do? Should we take a break for a little while....until he gets a fucking grip and I can forgive him? Or is there something I can say or do to make him understand, because explaining it the way I have been is obviously not getting through.
I mean, jesus, you would think that a guy would be thrilled with his wife being that secure in their relationship! He has put me through the wringer in the past, and I fought for us to stay together, and we did. Why the heck is it so hard for him to grasp that if I didn't love him, that would have been a damn good time to get rid of him, so why did I try so hard?
Ugh.
Fucking men.
