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Originally posted by jeffrey
your threats on me... I kinda wish I could make it to vegas. I wouldnt have hard feelings, and would shake your hand. but if you try and land me on my ass, you will have misjudged my abilities.
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Some things you don't say. What you said, was one of those things - in fact, you might be the first person on gfy to have actually pissed me off.
Anyone who would say something like that to my face would get fucked up. That's not a threat, not a promise, just a fact.
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Originally posted by jeffrey
You are still saying that EVERYONE thats a victim of a pedo goes and lives a perfect and norma life.
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No, I am not saying that. I'm saying that I and other people that I know are able to deal with it, and that it is possible to deal with it and lead a normal life.
Traumatic events like this take a long time to heal, and they probably never heal completely. Still, they don't kill you, and most people it happens to are able to lead lives that are otherwise quite "normal", enjoyable, etc.
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I dissagree, I will agree that men in general can deal with something tramatic like this better then females, and maybe thats why you (and the people you know) are able to lead a normal life. Both the women I know (knew) that had trama like a pedo or even jsut some sicko on a date has had a very hard time "getting over it" and the one took her life cause it was too hard for her.
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I know both men and women who had experiences like this, and no, it isn't any easier for men than it is for women. And yes, everyone has a very hard time dealing with it. However, having a hard time dealing with something doesn't mean it has to determine your entire life, or even end it.
Think about the guy I posted about, the one who killed himself because his girlfriend dumped him. Obviously, everybody has a hard time when getting dumped by someone they love, yet most people are able to deal with it in some way - clearly, then, there was more that caused him killing himself than just this single event. (and in fact, there was... he was also suffering from clinical depression and a few personality disorders)
Although sexual abuse ofcourse is worse than getting dumped, the same thing goes here: if you kill yourself because of it, there's more wrong than just what happened to you.
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Does that mean that every girl cant handle it? doubt it.
But I would bet more often then not the child grows up to be a much different person.
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What happens in your life changes who you are. That's always the case. That doesn't mean that a single event determines everything.
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FYI, if you havent figured it out yet your easily angered on this topic might be better if you sit it out.
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Just because something easily angers me, does not mean I should not try to educate those who don't know anything about it.
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Is a society based on law better then vigilanties better, yes I would agree, does the law always pan out to be the proper actions, no.
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But one of the concepts of a society based on law is that one follows the law, even when one disagrees with it. Otherwise, everyone could just break it, and it would be useless.
If you disagree with a law, try to get it changed
