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chase · 12-15-2004, 11:56 AM

In most cases, ya'll are totally correct-chicks should admit they were banging more than one dude at the time...but the men should be saying, yeah, there's a chance, but I don't think it's me, instead of saying 100% they are not the father. Same reason, they were at least one of the guys banging her, so there's a chance.
But I just wanted to point something out that happened to me, and probably accounts for some of those statistics...
I was 16, and my first boyfriend, first person I had sex with, too, broke up w/ me b/c he was going into boot camp. I met a guy who said he was 19, and we hung out a few times, and he was a perfect gentleman, so after a few weeks, we were drinking together, and either I passed out and he had sex with me or blacked out and consented, because I do not remember a thing about it. He never said a word about it, and I woke up fully dressed in my bed, not even feeling that ewwww feeling the next day like I usually do after having sex (I'm married now, so I have unprotected sex and I always feel kinda yucky the next day, IYKWIM). I found out I was pregnant a few months later, and I assumed it was my ex-bf, told the new guy that I was preggo, he still never said a word, and told him I had to stop hanging out with him b/c the ex and I were going to try to get back together and see if we could make it work. Fast forward to when the baby's a year old, and we do a test, and what do you know-my bf is NOT the father. I freaked out on him-I thought he sent someone else to give DNA! I demanded a retest and this time we went in at the same time, so I know it was legit. Same result. So, the child support worker told me that this happens a lot, and I needed to think of any time I had been drinking or doing drugs with anyone other than my bf around that time, and the afore mentioned guy was the ONLY one, so I told them, and a DNA test later, turns out HE is the father. Of course he says I consented, and maybe I did...I can't really be sure because I was drinking. But as it turned out, he was 24, not 19, too, so he really should have known better, too.
Anyway, he turned out to be a good dad, and I can't hold anything against him b/c I don't really know what happened. He passed away in a car accident two years ago, and I only wish I had known from the start so he could have been more involved with my son from the start instead of at 4 years old when the test was finally done.
So, just wanted to point out that it's not always the chick scheming, sometimes it's a genuine surprise.

12-15-2004, 11:56 AM
chase Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Tampa Bay Posts: 6,019	In most cases, ya'll are totally correct-chicks should admit they were banging more than one dude at the time...but the men should be saying, yeah, there's a chance, but I don't think it's me, instead of saying 100% they are not the father. Same reason, they were at least one of the guys banging her, so there's a chance. But I just wanted to point something out that happened to me, and probably accounts for some of those statistics... I was 16, and my first boyfriend, first person I had sex with, too, broke up w/ me b/c he was going into boot camp. I met a guy who said he was 19, and we hung out a few times, and he was a perfect gentleman, so after a few weeks, we were drinking together, and either I passed out and he had sex with me or blacked out and consented, because I do not remember a thing about it. He never said a word about it, and I woke up fully dressed in my bed, not even feeling that ewwww feeling the next day like I usually do after having sex (I'm married now, so I have unprotected sex and I always feel kinda yucky the next day, IYKWIM). I found out I was pregnant a few months later, and I assumed it was my ex-bf, told the new guy that I was preggo, he still never said a word, and told him I had to stop hanging out with him b/c the ex and I were going to try to get back together and see if we could make it work. Fast forward to when the baby's a year old, and we do a test, and what do you know-my bf is NOT the father. I freaked out on him-I thought he sent someone else to give DNA! I demanded a retest and this time we went in at the same time, so I know it was legit. Same result. So, the child support worker told me that this happens a lot, and I needed to think of any time I had been drinking or doing drugs with anyone other than my bf around that time, and the afore mentioned guy was the ONLY one, so I told them, and a DNA test later, turns out HE is the father. Of course he says I consented, and maybe I did...I can't really be sure because I was drinking. But as it turned out, he was 24, not 19, too, so he really should have known better, too. Anyway, he turned out to be a good dad, and I can't hold anything against him b/c I don't really know what happened. He passed away in a car accident two years ago, and I only wish I had known from the start so he could have been more involved with my son from the start instead of at 4 years old when the test was finally done. So, just wanted to point out that it's not always the chick scheming, sometimes it's a genuine surprise. __________________ Need Hosting? Reality Check Network services me purrrfectly!