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Originally posted by Chelsea Romero
Well said... But its not WHY you have to explain it to someone, its how do you explain it to people who mean the most to you
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That's a very good point.
Because we were not born into our involvement in the adult industry, there was a time before and after we chose to participate in it.
Our 'special friends' before our choice may not have had the benefit of reconciling our adult activities with their interest in friendship.
Hopefully, 'new special people' in our lives will have the opportunity to weigh in what we do before commtting to a friendship - some people just may not be interested in getting involved with someone in adult industry (this will always be the case).
1) For those important to us whom we did not necessarily choose (ie. parents, siblings) -- This is probably the toughest situation, because there is usually a strong desire to have these people on board with what we do (and it's really hard to fight this without breaking ties completely).
2) For those who knew us before we chose adult industry -- Some may accept it while others may not and it is inevitable that the choice to participate in adult industry may alienate those whom we never (ever) want to let go of.
3) Our new 'post porn' friends -- If we are aware of the caveats involved in waiting too long before disclosing enough information to avoid a future letdown with a new friend then hopefully, this will not be the greatest source of heartache.
From my experience, ALL of these scenarios require a very clear understanding on our own parts as to WHY we participate in adult industry. This is very important!
Participation in the adult industry comes with a full gamut of problems - social stigma, legal issues, it's a tough business with CC processors, lots of whackos in this arena.
It's really not the easiest and most problem free occupation to be involved in.
So again, WHY do you do it ? (rhetorical).
You have to find the answer to this question for yourself BEFORE you will ever be able to explain it to others without getting snagged in semantics and mindsets.
To my thinking, sensible involvement in adult industry requires a higher degree of maturity and experience - something an early twenties person may not yet posess (not to imply anything about the poster of this thread).
I have had my share of trials and tribulations (with 25 years of experience behind me) and even so, it was tough to find my place in this arena without a lot of soul searching and willingness to let go of things dear.
Once one has a clearer conviction to their work, it is not difficult at all to find strength and courage in that posture. When you speak from your heart and truth, you don't have to prove anything to anyone. Worthwhile 'friends' will recognize and value this.
With the exception of dear ones we inherit our choice to seek acceptance from those who cannot be objective and accepting is more our problem than their's.
-Dino