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Old 11-24-2004, 06:19 PM  
jonesy
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Sarah

i hope this helps.

It is fairly common for people in your situation to feel somewhat abandoned or alone - know that it isn't the case, and that friends and family are there for you - they might be silent because they just can't think of anything to say and want to give you as much space and support as possible to grieve in your own way. everyone is feeling the same loss.

sometimes they can develop a sense of guilt for not being able to say anything that can make a difference.

This guilt can compound to the point where people close to you might actually pull away, or seem to, in your time of need, because they are simply embarrassed and uncomfortable and feel guilty that they have nothing to say...either that or they will say what they think is a good rationalization that will put things in perspective, which I'm sure you will at some point get pretty tired of in spite of your appreciation of their attempts to help

These platitudes may get to be so tiresome that you might begin to pull away from well-wishers to avoid such discussion, which is totally ok - most people will interpret this as your wish to be left alone or not speak about it...


My condolences to you and your families.
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