I haven't read beyond Sarah's initial post but:
Sarah, I am so very, very sorry for your loss, I'm about 250 miles away from you in North Devon, if I can help you in any way please, please let me know.
I can't imagine the pain you're going through now but please contact me on
[email protected]
or
[email protected]
if there is ANYTHING I can do for you, even if you want to just yell at the injustice of it all
01598 740519