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Originally posted by polish_aristocrat
I disagree, marriage is a good thing. Many ppl are truly happy living their "normal" lives. Not everyone wants too much freedom - I mean many ppl are happy with their 9-5 jobs and a wife + 2 kids.
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And I respectfully disagree right back.
The happiness you speak of in many cases is an illusion. Like the grass being greener elsewhere.
Watch people when you go out into the world. Read the police log section of the newspaper. Many folks portraying the illusion of happiness are involved in spousal and child abuse, drinking themselves to death, overeating, etc..
Go drive in traffic or go to a mall or something.. People are leaning on their horns, waving their arms and going nuts behind the wheel of a car. People are openly screaming at each other, their "significant other" or kids right out in public. Such anger certainly doesn't stem from genuine happiness.
I think it was 2 days ago, I was at a gas station and there was this guy (with his wife in the passenger seat) beating the hell out of his kid because the child wouldn't put a book down. The wife was screaming at the kid too (instead of the husband) using profanity and really letting go with the rage. The kid couldn't have been more than 6 years old.
I do agree that there ARE *some* people genuinely pulling it off... But way too people in marriages with kids aren't fit to be in such a situation because they don't have their own demons sorted out as individuals. Bringing others into the situation only makes matters worse because they're seeking happiness from outside themselves which is the way they were shown it was done by their parents (who were likely the same way).
Anywho.. back to the subject. Marry who you wanna marry. Just don't do it because "everyone else is doing it".
That is my belief.