Hi Jade:
I too am looking at webcam software. I don't know if this will help, but you may want to check out
http://www.audiovideoweb.com. They seem to have a really nice setup. Also
http://www.nakedhosting.com handles a lot of webcam stuff for amateurs.
I'm also beta testing a new pay-per-minute billing interface for Paycom.net that's specifically designed for women who want to do cam stuff on their own. If you interested in that email me at
[email protected]. Hope this info helps.