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Originally posted by tootie
Well I can't speak for HER, but if it was ME, I think my leaving would be a way of getting attention and letting you think about how much you miss me so that maybe you'd think twice about saying mean things to me later. Yes, I know that's a terribly immature thing to do, leaving for attention or whatever, but females can be like that. Sometimes when we don't know how to get what we want any other way, we leave. We don't want to, but we just can't think of another option. At the time we leave we may think we want to, but not long afterwards we realize we just wanted you to stop what you were doing.
All the times I tried to leave my abusive boyfriend, I really just wanted him to stop being mean. He was so sweet alot of the time and I cared for him deeply. His parents kicked him out of the house when he was just a teenager and everyone he ever cared about ended up leaving him. I wanted to be there for him. I wanted to stay. But eventually I just couldn't stay anymore. The many times I left, or tried to, before the last time, were cries for help, trying desperately to make him see that if he didn't change, I WOULD leave forever. Eventually I just realized that my leaving wasn't enough of an incentive to make him stop and I had to give up. I hated to do that to him, but I had no choice.
Without hearing her side of the story, there isn't alot I could tell you, but from what YOU have told me, it doesn't seem to me like she really wanted to leave permanently. That's just my opinion, though.
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I think she is doing something alone those lines. I also think she believes now ill always be like that... so instead of having good and bad times occasionally, she preffers to leave me.
Another thing... she doesn't want to see me at all. Not by any chance, she refused everytime i could speak with her. This is very strange considering that she didnt left me for a strong fight, like me cheating her or something like that. I think she wants to forget me as quickly as she can...
Ahhh, she has huge pride which is turning against me now. But if i leave for good, she will never be back, im sure of that.