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optikalz · 02-01-2002, 12:55 AM

Good point, Good Girl.

Since people are posting traits that they think help one to success, I'd like to post the 4 traits that I focus on when i do my work.

Practice Kindness -- compassion means seeing one's struggle as universal and treating people accordingly. Real compassion does not ask for anything back. Help a newbie today cuz we're all perpetual newbies at some level or other.

Share other People's joy -- in this business, there are a lot of Player Haters. You know, people who are envious of the RESULTS of the labors of "more successful' webmasters but are ignorant of the work, creativity, sacrifice, etc it took to generate those abundant results. Player haters thrive by putting others down to make themselves feel good as well as thinking that some other person's gain is necessarily their loss. Unfortunately, the Player Hater is ingrained in ALL of us. Some more than others, but all of us have it...suppressed or not. The way to deal with this urge is to SHARE other people's joy. When someone posts that their page converted 1:5 today, TRULY feel that person's joy. Not envy. Not lip service. But genuine joy you project to that person since you yourself have felt the joy of your efforts being rewarded. When one has learned the skill to share in other people's joy, then there is no depression, no disappointment because somewhere somehow every second, despite all the misery we'd like to focus on, someone out there is experiencing happiness. The way out often means reaching out to others outside ourselves.

Compassion -- Real compassion is not feeling sorry FOR someone. Real compassion is feeling bad WITH someone. Everybody has been disappointed at certain points in their lives. Everybody has learned certain lessons in their lives. The ability to bridge one's lessons with the current suffering of another person going through that experience allows one to move past the confines of "ME ME ME" and see the world for what it is.... a collection of other people's [as well as your own] perception.

Even Mindedness -- The Rat Race is real. We often think our happiness is always in the future. "If I make 100K a year I'll be happy..." Then when you reach that goal you say "Well if I got to 100K then I can make it to 200K" Having goals is one thing, but destroying your appreciation for the present moment by focusing too intently on the future makes one lose appreciation for life. Life is lived one moment at a time, each moment being lost forever after you've lived it. Why live with your head in the future when life is happenning HERE and NOW. I used to think that success is a destination.... I later came to realize, after much pain and confusion, that success and happiness is a process... a journey, a daily realization.

Like the prior posts, I work 16 hours a day but I try to make each moment a moment of wonder, of HUMOR, of creativity, of realization, well.... of joy.

We may be peddlers of smut... but no one can take the joy and bliss we derive from our work.

I wish you peace and success!

LinkyD

02-01-2002, 12:55 AM
optikalz Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Lost Angelez Posts: 555	Good point, Good Girl. Since people are posting traits that they think help one to success, I'd like to post the 4 traits that I focus on when i do my work. Practice Kindness -- compassion means seeing one's struggle as universal and treating people accordingly. Real compassion does not ask for anything back. Help a newbie today cuz we're all perpetual newbies at some level or other. Share other People's joy -- in this business, there are a lot of Player Haters. You know, people who are envious of the RESULTS of the labors of "more successful' webmasters but are ignorant of the work, creativity, sacrifice, etc it took to generate those abundant results. Player haters thrive by putting others down to make themselves feel good as well as thinking that some other person's gain is necessarily their loss. Unfortunately, the Player Hater is ingrained in ALL of us. Some more than others, but all of us have it...suppressed or not. The way to deal with this urge is to SHARE other people's joy. When someone posts that their page converted 1:5 today, TRULY feel that person's joy. Not envy. Not lip service. But genuine joy you project to that person since you yourself have felt the joy of your efforts being rewarded. When one has learned the skill to share in other people's joy, then there is no depression, no disappointment because somewhere somehow every second, despite all the misery we'd like to focus on, someone out there is experiencing happiness. The way out often means reaching out to others outside ourselves. Compassion -- Real compassion is not feeling sorry FOR someone. Real compassion is feeling bad WITH someone. Everybody has been disappointed at certain points in their lives. Everybody has learned certain lessons in their lives. The ability to bridge one's lessons with the current suffering of another person going through that experience allows one to move past the confines of "ME ME ME" and see the world for what it is.... a collection of other people's [as well as your own] perception. Even Mindedness -- The Rat Race is real. We often think our happiness is always in the future. "If I make 100K a year I'll be happy..." Then when you reach that goal you say "Well if I got to 100K then I can make it to 200K" Having goals is one thing, but destroying your appreciation for the present moment by focusing too intently on the future makes one lose appreciation for life. Life is lived one moment at a time, each moment being lost forever after you've lived it. Why live with your head in the future when life is happenning HERE and NOW. I used to think that success is a destination.... I later came to realize, after much pain and confusion, that success and happiness is a process... a journey, a daily realization. Like the prior posts, I work 16 hours a day but I try to make each moment a moment of wonder, of HUMOR, of creativity, of realization, well.... of joy. We may be peddlers of smut... but no one can take the joy and bliss we derive from our work. I wish you peace and success! LinkyD Last edited by linkyd; 02-01-2002 at 02:39 AM..