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Originally posted by SykkBoy2
My oldest son has Selective Mutism which is somewhat similar
I'm very anti-medicating
we're working through positive reinforcement and change of diet like omega 3's (as mentioned above) and it's helped a little, but he still has the anxiety disorder
I'm afraid meds would stunt his creative growth as well I have concerns over long term effects at medicating at such a young age.
Here's a kid, that at home is loud, plays with his friends, is an amazing computer gamer, can figure out things quickly like programming a VCR and DVD player, but simply can't talk in school or public settings with a lot of people around. This isn't "shyness" it's an anxiety disorder that is similar to stagefright..I've observed him in class when he's unaware I'm there and can see him white knuckle when he is asked to speak.
It's something we've dealt with for a couple years now and are making small amounts of progress. He orders his own ice cream from the ice cream truck now and will whisper in my ear when in public with a lot of adults (he's fine at a place like Chuck E Cheese). I feel the progress we've made has been slow but better than just pumping him full of medication just so he'll talk to his teacher or his friends in school (which he won't do even though he'll sleep over at their houses and play with them regularly outside of school).
My advice is to just be there for your kid and work on things like diet, calming exercises, etc. That's just my personal opinion and not a medical opinion....
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THIS sounds so much like my son that it is almost scarey.... and it is ONLY at school, nowhere else. He is a very charming little boy in EVERY single setting but school and there he is really inward and not willing to talk to anyone about anything there. He gets frustrated with them easily and instead of having a fit like he would at home, he just slams shut and refuses to even speak to them.
We went thru hell when he was in 4th grade last year, the first semester of school, the teacher he had took his book away from him and threw it across the room, screamed at him and all sorts of shit, just a cruel old bitch all the way around. The book hit him as it was leaving him in her hands and she almost hit another kid when she did it, she threw his book all the way across the room to the garbage can.
THEN, check THIS shit out, they wanna tell me HE has ADHD after he shut down from a teacher throwing his shit across the room...... took me two weeks to get him with a new teacher and within a week he went from being 3 weeks behind (this other teacher had all of her students that far behind), to the top 5 in his class. He was at the bottom of his previous teacher's class, and quickly moved to the top in the other one, so NO ONE is going to tell me these teachers don't have anything to do with this shit. Some of them want Zombies and if they don't get them, they freak fucking out.
I absolutely, 100% refuse to put my son on drugs of ANY kind just so they don't have to deal with them. They are KIDS, my GOD!!! They don't want us to discipline them for shit, but it is ok for them to pop pills in their mouths and throw shit at them and so on? And this is ok? Fuck that!!
My son is 100% fine unless he has someone that raises their voices at him and then he completely shuts down.... this isn't ADHD, he just doesn't want to be yelled at, if you treat him cool and calm, that's what you get back, but yell at him and there is NOTHING to keep him from freaking out and getting horribly upset.