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Originally posted by chase
Tom, anytime you need me, man, I'll be here. My husband and I have gone through the same stuff with Kris-he says horrible things about himself if he is criticized at all, and part of us gets mad and feels manipulated by it and the other part wants to convince him he is wrong. He is his own worst critic, seriously, and it's really, really hard to discipline a child like that b/c you have to let them know they are wrong, but their self-esteem is so fragile that it's like walking on eggshells. He is so friggin smart, but he requires hand-holding to get anything done...it's like when he's left to figure out how to do something his brain just doesn't know where to start and so he either does nothing, or gets distracted by something else. We can't have a serious conversation without him bringing something completely off topic up, so we have so steer him back to the subject at hand. It is A LOT harder to parent a child like this, but you ARE NOT ALONE. Always remember that, and if you need me, no matter the time or how much time you need, I'll be here. I'm so new at this that I still spend most of my time trying to figure out the best way to do stuff, rather than doing stuff, lolol.
BTW, my husband has ADHD, and his ex, Kris' mom, has bi-polar disorder. I don't know if you read my thread about the pot-smoking and how we just quit b/c social services got involved, but that is a huge part of why he smoked.....self-medicating b/c we have no insurance for him to get actual medication. He's been clean for two days now and he's driving ME crazy b/c he's so antsy and jumpy. Point being, had he been diagnosed as a child, and taught how to work around his disorder, he would most likely be better able to function sans medication or marijuana, so think about the advantages Anthony will have because you are so committed to helping him reach his potential. Good Daddy!
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Chase
(He is so friggin smart, but he requires hand-holding to get anything done...it's like when he's left to figure out how to do something his brain just doesn't know where to start and so he either does nothing, or gets distracted by something else. We can't have a serious conversation without him bringing something completely off topic up, so we have so steer him back to the subject at hand.)
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My god that is Anthony once shown HE WILL BEAT IT as for distracted that statment sent shivers through out my body... Anthony is Just like that he will take his eyes and stare out to space till I manualy grab him by the head and turn his head so his eyes are looking into mine... and he will repeat like I will ask you know that was bad that you did this He will be I was bad but wont tell me 80% of the time why he was bad...
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my husband has ADHD, and his ex, Kris' mom, has bi-polar disorder. I don't know if you read my thread about the pot-smoking and how we just quit b/c social services got involved, but that is a huge part of why he smoked.....self-medicating b/c we have no insurance for him
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self medicating ha ha ha so freaking true... Im too scared to try street drugs now adays and DONT need Social service agian in my life.. The doc in 98 started me on pain pills for my anx and head aches and from there on its been A bitch I don't need or want them when EVERYTHING IS GOING FINE which is rare but as soon as something goes wrong or iM late on a project or the kids or anything first thing I do is run and run like a fat slob back to the pain meds wow
I will hit ya up on icq in a few prolyl within 30 to 60 mins if your online DONT WAIT FOR ME please I need to go to the store get more smokes freaking smoked 4 packs today my chest is killing me and I didtn even relize How much I smoked.. I may take the kids and just drive to the beach not get out of course but just drive for a few mins to clear my head...
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LadyMischief
but undetected food allergies, often to food dyes, preservatives and other alergens... The alergic reaction is almost identical and pretty much indistinguishable from ADHD. My daughter has allergies to Red food coloring, and when she eats it, she's mental for 3 days.
Very interesting Anthony 2 years ago stopped breathing and his heart was only beating 15 beats per secs when I looked in on him. I think I told ya this before but he had the flu and got dehydrated cause he couldnt keep nothing down and it happened so fast being a paramedic like I was I was always checking in on him and forcing popcycles down his throat then his pot was way down from the heart not beating and no o2 I gave him cpr got him back took him to hospital they called an ambulance and transported him 30 mins from their place to the kids hospital after that I found he was alerg to Penicillian, some sort of fruit stuff that was in this one type of apple juice and now adderall
Screw this with everyone telling me their story seeing my kid in a lot of the people here I WILL DO AS YOU SAID FIRST Thing in the morning iM going to find a specialist tell him/her what is and has been going on and see from there damn damn damn bbl giong to store
Thank you alll so much again I knew comming to gfy with this many webmasters somone even if it was one person but somone had or has been going through this... Personal or not ya know who your true friends are when things like this happen and I have made some new friends as well.
Thanks again
TOM