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I have known a few, and actually did counselling many years back when I was in the ministry.
When there is no hope it is tough to rebuild it - or when stress gets too much
you and those who remain should be upset, the person who did it "stole" something from you - that being their presence and what they added to your life. Suicide is selfish - simple as that.
They need to speak out and talk to their friends about their thoughts and hopelessness - too see themselves as others do. Failing that, they need to start seeing positives in their life, what good they have done, what they can do.. and that tomorrow may bring about a great change for the better.
But never, never blame yourself or feel that you missed the signs. Which btw are many - giving away personal belongings, depression followed by a calm feeling (they have come to terms with death and plan on it) - but if your faced with someone you think is suicidal, one good question is - "so how do you plan on doing it?" if they can answer that in detail, then you have a serious case on your hands. If not, then they are depressed but okay to be encouraged and on their own.
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