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I have a question about this ....
Do you guys think it is extremely "abnormal" if I haven't spoken to my mom in like 6 or 7 years? My best friend tells me that it is EXTREMELY abnormal and that I need help and see a therapist because I can't talk to my mom. I think it's not THAT weird, I really don't know.
It started when I was a teen and I had problems getting along with mom. People always say that it gets better when you get older and that you become closer when you get older. This has not been true for me. When I turned 19 I just left home one day without telling her and moved out (because I didn't get along with her) and I haven't talked to her since, except maybe 4 or 5 times in almost 7 years.
I think my mother is too protective of me because I'm her daughter. She still treats me like I'm 12 when I'm 26. I really can't explain why but I can't talk to her at all, about anything. I don't feel comfortable talking to her about work, my education, my life, or anything for that matter, we just weren't close when growing up and now that I'm an adult we just don't talk at all.
One of my friends keeps telling me that I am cruel and evil because I won't visit my mom ( I know that she is looking for me and wants to see me) But I just can't. I am so used to not dealing with her that I just don't want to start dealing with it all over again. I think I have resentments because my mom was too overprotective of me when growing up, even when I was over 18 she would still forbid me to go out and snoop through my room. I couldn't take it so I just left home and we never rebuilt our relationship.
Is this really abnormal? My friend keeps telling me i HAVE to visit my mom because she is old and what if something happens to her, I might regret it. She lives very close to me , but for some reason I am so used to not dealing with all the family drama, I just can't deal with it again.
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