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Originally posted by neewwman
I have twin two-and-a-half-year-olds, a boy and a girl.
I have only spanked once, when I really lost my temper with my son. I slapped him once on the leg. I felt terrible.
It is not ok to cause physical pain to get someone to do what you want. It is not ok to hurt someone just because you're bigger and stronger. That's not what I want to teach my kids.
My parents never physically disciplined me and I was a very good kid, did not get into trouble.
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there is a difference between some phsyical discpline and beating a child
A firm swat on the ass (cup your hand and it sounds louder than it is) and a timout on the couch will not turn a child into Charles Manson. Just spanking a child isn't the answer either, it has to be coupled with loss of priveliges
I'm not really the spanking type either. My kids have had maybe a handful of spankings. Most of their discipline consists of loss of computer time, loss of television time and the ultimate killer, 5 minutes on the couch with no television or talking (or the 5 minutes starts over).
I've never used an object on my kids nor have they ever been spanked anywhere other than the ass (with the exception of the occasional "duck and scoot" causing a smack on the back.
I also don't believe in more than a single swat.
I didn't go to school to become some fancy "child therapist" or some bullshit. I learned by being a father. I have 3 kids that I can, for the most part, take out in a public place and not have to worry about them being little maniacs (except the goddamned grocery store...what s it about grocery stores that make kids lose their minds?). They understand the words "please" and "thank you" and I even get chastised by them if I don't return a "you're welcome".
It's not about some threat of violence, rather th discipline of losing out on time to do something they want. The swat (or threat of a swat) is more a reminder that it is accompanied by a timeout or loss of an activity.
While some of you think that when you have kids you'll just sit around and smoke a bowl with them and they'll be alright citizens, you're in for a huge awakening.
You'll learn the balance of discipline and rewards. You'll learn about parenting. You'll learn the samurai control it takes to keep your cool when you have 3 kids flopping themselves on the floor crying because you bought Captain Crunch without the goddamned crunch berries instead of with....