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Originally posted by chase
I think I can relate.....I have this hungry curiosity...I'm very dominant in my marriage...just the way things go at my place...what Mama says, goes. My husband is very, very, very laid back. Too much pot, I guess, lmao. He's not interested in being a sub in the typical sense of the word; he just says he trusts me to handle most things because I make sound decisions 99% of the time, while he has problems even making the wrong ones, lol. So, I don't think he'll let me get my kink on with him. What's funny, is, with him in bed, I'm pretty submissive, anyway...I guess that's the one place he "flexxxes" his muscle ( and at 10.5, it's a very impressive muscle!)
Anyway, I think the draw for me is the nuturing aspect....I could never be a cruel mistress....even discipline would be administered with a loving hand. i suppose that alienates me from subs who crave that treatment, but again, lol, I assume that there are others who just like to give up control. (Though in all reality, in a healthy D/s relationship it is the sub who sets the limits.)
Anyway, I guess I am just wanting someone with a bit of experience to bounce my interpertations of D/s relationships off of...so anyway, if you'd like to chat, please feel free to hit me up...the number's in my sig!
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Interesting! I actually try not to do any chatting other than with my members (translation = I hate chatting hehehe), but I added you to my icq list anyway. I do not consider myself "experienced" in the scene at all -- 95% of my experiences have just come naturally and I have no idea (and don't really care) if they fit any standardized notions of what domination is/should be. The main thing, I think, is to know what YOU like, what YOU want to experience, and what feels comfortable to you and conforms to your personality . . . and to be able to articulate those desires into expectations and seek out people whose desires to serve click with your desires to dominate.
Anyway, I know there are people out there who want a sweet Mommy (which is the kind of role you are talking about) in one form or another, whether or not that's the name you give it. It sounds like you want someone who is very dependent on your approval and disapproval, who eats up your affection and cringes at your chagrin. But I'm just guessing at what you mean by getting your kink on ;)
A good woman to read is
http://mistressmatisse.blogspot.com. She's smart, experienced, and gives good insight into her work as a pro-Domme. She's sort of legendary around Seattle, has a column in The Stranger, etc.