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Originally posted by SleazyDream
i think you hit the nail on the head. problem is the person is totally avoiding me now and won't talk to me.
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Switch the subject of conversation from cocaine to whatever the SOURCE of PAIN is, and you will find them much more receptive. Nobody likes to be preached to, but everybody likes empathy. A talk that begins with "I know how you feel..." is very different from "I'm worried about you...". The first case creates a common ground, the second sets you above them. Smart people, especially, are very reluctant to admit they are not in control. Work on creating empathy, share your own addictions, until you are speaking to them from a level they recognize.
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