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Originally posted by JayJay
So what you are basically saying is that
80% of all women have been sexually abused?
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Your original post was about physical/sexual abuse..... and there is a large % of women that have been either physically or sexually abused. What SOME may see as abuse, isn't really abuse at all, so you have to allow for that...... getting your ass whipped or being told "no, you can't go to that party" is NOT abuse, but if you talk to some, they will tell you their parents were horrible and emotionally abused them and so on.
What I class as abuse is when you get the hell beat out of you, leaving bruises all over you, being forced to have sex when you don't want to do it, being touched in places you don't want to be touched as a child....... things of THIS nature.
My own daughter told her friends once that we were abusive to her and told me we abused her, and you know why she did this? Because she had chores and none of her friends had chores so this must make me an abusive parent. Her friends parents all cleaned their rooms for them and they had to do NOTHING around the house. MY kids have chores, if they are going to live in my house, they are going to have responsibilities....... but try telling a 15 yr old girl this, she was convinced she was abused.
People see abuse as many different things, strict parents are not abusive parents........ making them clean their room isn't abusive. Being beaten until you bleed or being forced to be touched in private places, THAT is abuse.
My greatest memory as a mom was when my oldest who is now engaged, came to me and thanked me for being a mom that cared enough to TEACH her responsibility and giving her my best. She no longer thinks she was abused because she had to clean her room, but boy, for about 2-3 years there, she sure as hell did.