well, i know that the court ALWAYS favors the mother for full or the majority of custody
so, just be VERY prepared for that long hard road and FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT!!!!!!!!!
as for your (now) ex,
- if she didnt have the fuckin guts to tell you her wants & needs and what she felt, then thats HER problem, not yours!
good luck with everything else, im sure that will be all cleared up soon. time is the answer. so chill for now, and let shit work itself out and focus on those kids!