So I guess you wouldnt want me to be aggressive in bed?
I understand what you're feeling though, must really suck - I dont think theres much you can do about it, other then going to the extreme and burning yourself up in the sun and smoking 2 packs a day
Best thing you can do is, take the blows as they come, and be ready for them, then when someone does treat you like that, return the favor.
Dont take it personally.