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Originally posted by Tala
There are those who can see past the fat, CD. More than we may realize, but still a sad minority.
Gwynneth Paltrow actually spent a day in Hollywood in her "fat suit". No one recognized her, and most people simply either looked past her as though she wasn't there, or gave her looks of utter disgust. She said it was one of the most eye-opening days of her life. I believe it.
That said, those of us who can't get by on our looks have to develop the personality that saves us from a lifetime of misery. We often become quick-witted and yet fun to be around so that we can hide our shame and self-loathing.
It hurts, but we do what we gotta do. Some of us find the willpower to lose the weight, and I applaud those who can do that. When someone says, "It's not the clothes, but the fat that makes you look fat," it just makes us feel worse. Worse because we know you're right.
There's more to me than the fat. But all many people will ever see is the fat. I don't blame anything or anybody else for my being fat: I did it to myself. I may be genetically pre-disposed to have a large bone structure, but I am not genetically pre-disposed to eat junk food and sit on my ass all day.
It's a long, slow road that I'm taking to lose weight, because I think that if I tried a crash diet again, I'd just gain it all back and then some.
All I ask is that someone take a moment to get to know me before judging me on appearance alone.
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During the movie, I found myself wishing that Tony Robbins would come around here and give me "the site" so I could see the inner beauty like Hal could.
I also noticed that Hal was seeing the inner ugliness of the really hot babes, like that one bitchy nurse. To Hal she looked like a miserable hag, but to everyone else she was a near supermodel, and a gold-digger at that.
I think I would love that kind of vision.