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When I was young my mom went too far in the spanking department...she used a leather belt. There were many times where I was kept inside for days until the bleeding/swelling/bruising and welts went down enough for me to go outside. It was abuse, plain and simple. That was NOT spanking, that was a woman with a problem taking it out on an innocent child.
Having said that, i actually believe in "spanking" in CERTAIN situations. These situations have only come up less than 4 or 5 times each in my kids entire childhood.
They all got their first slap (yes ONE small slap on the behind, over their clothes) doing the same thing. What was it? Stepping on the road. First try "NO", second try "I SAID NO" third time...a slap. None of them ever stepped on the road again unless I took them on it by the hand. I have always reserved the slap for situations I felt were dangerous. The other normal childhood things, time-out in their rooms always worked fine.
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