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Originally posted by Keev
its called disapline people! go to your room dont do shit these days when ever kid has playstation ,phone, computer, etc
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So do what that one dad did, and sell the kids playstation on ebay.
If you were a kid, would you rather take a spanking or lose your gaming-console forever?
As an adult, if you were convicted of, say.. drunk driving... would you rather take a caneing to the backside, or sit in prison for a long time?
If your wife was killed by a drunk driver, would you rather he recieve a whipping, or go to prison for a long time?
Long-term punishments are worse, and more of a deterrant.
I'm all for discipline.. I don't even like children... and when they're talking though a movie I share the temptation to beat them... but discipline should be calm, rational, and ethically superior.
Don't forget that you're ultimately trying to produce a calm, rational, ethical person.
.. saying that "hitting is bad" and then hitting a kid as punishment for hitting his sister is contradictory, confusing, and makes you/the world seem unpredictable, breeding distrust.
Respect is based on admiration, not fear. And parents who are obsessed with 'respect' are usually just petty tyrants who are more concerned with their own ego, as opposed to the quality of the person they create.