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Originally posted by garett
My wife and I feel that sex is not love. And that's all I'm talking about.. sex and only sex. If she and a guy started hanging out regularly, going on dates, having dinner together on a regular basis etc. then yes I would get insecure. But sex is just sex. It's fun.
How do I deal with other guys being better than me ? I might be weird but I don't have big dick syndrome like most men. Every guy is different and will be better in some ways and worse in others. In fact, I get off on the idea of my wife being with a guy that can pleasure her in ways that I can't. I want her to enjoy herself and be happy. If the guy is worse than me in every way, then why bother ? Why not just fuck me?
It takes a mutual understanding and belief in the separation of sex and love for this to work, of course.
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Were you with many partners before you were married? Just trying to figure out what made you become comfortable with such thinking. If you had sex with 100s of different people than sex becomes casual, though "most" people do not have 100s of partners, and thus sex and love are tightly connected.
Cheers,
Matt