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Originally posted by TheMob?
what does it take to make yourself learn about yourself from things like that. you have to agree that it's not, by nature, a very constructive thought..
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At first glance it may not seem constructive. Perhaps it is morbid curiousity for some. The "what does he have that I dont have" type thing. But you can also see things about yourself that may help you down the road. What is he providing her with that you didn't because you couldn't or perhaps didn't want to. Were you to complacent etc. I think you get the point. It can help in future relationships.
By nature I am hard wired not to feel pain from social break ups like that. I rarely feel jealousy and when I do I channel it into something more productive. Most aren't like that and wouldn't understand.