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Originally posted by graphicsbytia
all I was saying is that by the time children get to the age of 12, the way they will be as an adult is already formed, I didn't say they didn't need any more guidance.. they need even more then.. but forcing them to do things, or not to do things.. nope.. I don't agree with that at all.. what you're talking about is damage control.. and at it's best, it doesn't work all that well
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Normally I would agree, but not in this case. My parents wouldn't let me watch R-rated movies that had "sexual situations" until I was 13. After I turned 13, they assumed (as you do) that my personality was already formed and let me choose for myself what to watch and how to dress. I chose to watch sexually suggestive movies and dress slutty -- they didn't stop me. My parents believed the same as you, let me be myself with a little "guidance" in the right direction. Throughout school I was always in GATE classes and my GPA averaged 3.8.
As you can probably imagine, my parents are not proud of me because I work as a stripper. I don't "blame" my parents for my current occupation; I like what I do and I'm good at it. Considering the life I've chosen, I'm very successful. I own my own house, my 2001 luxury car is paid in full, and I don't rely on anyone else to support me.
Parenting doesn't just happen; whether you raise your kids or not they still grow up. While our basic personalities may be developed by age 5, other big life decisions and occupation choices continue to be influenced much much later.
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Originally posted by Kassidy
If you let your 12 year old get her belly button and tongue pierced and dress like a hoochie, people are going to see her as a hoochie, regardless of whether she actually is one or not, and treat her as such. Some parents might think it's 'cute' or they're just trying to let their children 'express themselves' but they'll regret it when their 18 year old daughter is trying to support her 2 kids on her own by swinging on a pole every night...
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I agree with this completely!
