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Originally posted by deeprubs' wife
Here is the deal...
I am sitting here crying right now.. some of your really hurt my feelings.. I was just asking about a trade.. I did not think that people would put me down and talk mean about me, insult me and make me freakin cry!!!!!
I honestly thought more of the people on this board.... I never ever would have even posted anything if I thought that people would be mean and ugly and insulting to me.. I feel so terrible.
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April, I lurked on GFY for months before getting the gumption up to actually post for that very reason. It's taken me a year to thicken my skin, and I still get hurt by some of the comments, but I try not to show it. It's part of the fun of the board, watching other people get flamed, but eventually those flames will turn their attention on you, no matter how nice and sweet and lovable your adorable self may be.
The trick is not to take it too serioulsy, because if you do, then that's just too bad for your own piece of mind and it attracts the haters like blood in the water. Just look up any flame war thread.
Here's a quick GFY summary:
beautiful women get flamed for dying their hair, getting implants, tanning, not tanning, posting pictures (attention whore), not posting pictures (tease, too shy), bad picture quality, not knowing obscure site development trivia
talented designers get flamed for charging too much, doing too simple designs, doing too fancy designs, not guaranteeing sales from their designs
talented photographers get flamed for posting too many pictures (spamming), not posting enough pictures (selfish), bad photo quality, ugly models, sexing up the models, not sexing up the models
post whores get flamed for whoring, for sporting an unfashionable sig, for not posting if they're been absent
successful business people get flamed for starting in mainstream (infiltrator), moving to mainstream (selling out), retiring too early (showoff), not retiring yet (obviously not that successful), trying to give advice, not giving enough advice
This list is by no means exhaustive.
Just keep your chin up, April. And it's ok to say
now and then to tell people to mind their own business.