There are usually two ways that it goes - if you are extremely happy the minute she leaves, you'll be miserable a few months down the line. If you are miserable when she leaves, you generally come to the realization that it was the best decision within a few months and good things start to happen again. This, always taking into consideration that you don't get back together.
If you decide on divorce - you'll be 10 steps ahead when you realize that to master the game, you must not allow her to bring you into an emotional confrontation - that's what divorcing couples want/need - (the separation has left them dry of confrontation with you) So, if she calls and starts screaming & yelling - tell her you are not interested in arguing, stick to the point of the call and do not allow her to get you in a screaming match. Once you master that - you'll feel so much better and you may actually begin to like eachother again.
Don't blame her for anything - take responsibility for your actions don't through blame on her and since it's over, there is no need to bring any of that up again. You'll get your things settled in court when the time comes.
Ok that's my 'Dear Trixxxia' of the day.......Ciao :-)
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