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I've been married twice. Once in my 20's and once in my 30's. I'm now single again and have a fantastic son from my 2nd marriage. I doubt I'll ever get married again.
I'll put it this way. Marriage will completely transform your life. I think for 99% of the people it turns out to be an adventure they didn't quite expect.
The main problem is when you are dating someone you have the time to yourself in the relationship. When you get married its usually 24/7 you're around each other and all of a sudden you see things in your partner that you never saw before. Little habits, mood swings, etc. This is what inevitably creates the friction that starts to build and build.
Another thing is the routine factor. Once you get married you both develop daily routines. After a while, unless you really make an effort to keep things new and exciting, for most couples things start to get boring.
But what else can you expect? You do anything in life over and over and the excitement of it fades after a while.
This is one of the same reasons when you get wealthy you eventually reach the day when you've bought all the toys, and you look in the mirror and you say "Now what?". You have to work to find things that will keep you excited. Same with your marriage.
Also you have the hormone thing. I don't know what the hell it is, but in both my marriages my wives got way way moodier over the years. My 2nd wife was a gem until she got into her late 30's and was approaching 40. Her whole personality just went 180 degrees and she became very difficult to live with and communicate with.
I'm a super easy going person and can't deal with people who get moody, bitchy, whiny, all the time. So when you marry someone and they are sweet and nice and then turn into nightmares you wake up just wishing that you'd never got married.
Marriage also restricts you if you like being with a variety of women. Most guys have this problem and end up cheating or the women cheat on them.
So bottom line its very complex when you get married. I don't recommend it until you're in your 30's at least and are in a more settled down mode.
When you have kids it really complicates the issue. Now even if you get divorced you have to still have a daily relationship with your ex-wife. Sometimes that can be a nightmare. I was lucky because my ex and I get along better than ever now.
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