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Tam · 03-06-2001, 07:41 PM

lynch.... their happiness is sooo very much in the front of our minds as we raise our kids. Their ages are as follows:

Girl will be 17 this weekend
Boy will be 12 in April
Boy just turned 7 in December
Girl just turned 3 in January

I have them in ALL age groups... wanna talk about a bitch keeping them all happy.. YOU try and keep them all happy when dealing with that many in that many different age groups.

There are times when their safety has to be put above their happiness and I can't help if I tell them they can't go out with that drunken fool and it makes them unhappy!! It's for their own good. And I am so sorry to inform you of the plain and simple fact that alot of friends and active in sports does not necessarily mean they are happy. On the contrary, there are a ton of kids that are active in sports and have a ton of friends that are far from happy.

My oldest daughter is about ready to get her first car.... she was told early on that she is to pay 1/2 of the cost of this car, I am not going to go out and totally buy this car for her as she has to know that shit doesn't come free. So what does she do? Instead of whining, she goes and gets a job and she is putting 1/2 of her check back every payday to put towards a car so when in June, she has a license, she will have a car.

We moved in December and my kids had to hange schools...... well he is on the Academic team and very active in the school band, has loads of friends....... but this child was so miserable for about a month that I spent more one on one time with him than I ever have, trying to find out what was bothering him.... talked to principals, councelors.. you name it and I did it all...... I could have played the cop out and just said "oh it's his age" but on the contrary, I went the extra mile to find out what was causing him to be so miserable.... turns out he was being bullied and one of his teachers were giving him such a hard time that he was beginning to fail in school........ this child, who in your scheme of things, should have been happy.... afterall he is active in Band and on the Academic team and has a ton of friends...... well baby, he was the most miserable of all my kids. So your theory on all of this keep them happy thing is not always the case if they have friends and sports and shit like that.

My daughter just recently had to write a paper on who inspired her the most...... and I had no idea she was even writing a paper, I found it by accident the other night while cleaning my table off....... do you know who she said inspired her the most? It was not one of her loads of friends. it was me she wrote about....... I sat down and cried like a baby.... here all this time I was unsure anything I said was getting thru to her.... ME, her mom who does things that don't always make her happy.... this Mom who has forced her to see the real world for what it is, this mom who has taught her how to shoot that gun...... taught her that I would lay down and die for her if she is in the right but will not back her in the slightest if she is wrong, who has taight her that if she screws up she stands alone, but if she is in the right, I am right there for her. It was me...... you have no idea how that makes me feel It makes me know I am doing something right as a mom.

my kids are allowed to play video games, watch all the "bad" tv shows and listen to all that "bad" music... BUT they are taught that is is NOT reality, reality is the choices they make with the cards they are dealt, and they are taught that the choices they make NOW will follow them always. My kids restrictions are very minimal, as follows....

1)Always stick to what you belive in, if people make fun of you, so what, they are words and they don't hurt.
2)Don't show me or anyone in my home any disrespect, you are allowed to disagree but are not allowed to do it in a disrectful manner!!
3)For every single action you take there is ALWAYS a reaction, maybe not right now but there is always going to be a reaction, so think before you act.
4)Be big enough to stand up and take any punishment you have coming to you for anything you do that is immoral or illegal, or just plain disrepectful.

The only thing in my house that is forbidden to my kids is porn.... not because it is dirty, as I was taught by MY parents. Just for the simple fact I don't think they are ready for that yet.... But how can I look into their faces, ANY of them and tell them that SEX is bad, if this is the case I may as well be telling them that I don't want them....... afterall isn't this how I got them? No way will I ever tell them that sex is bad.. not ever.. but I teach them to be responsible with that as they are with anything else they do in their lives.

Ok, I went into long winded mode here... but there are reasons I do what I do with my kids....... my oldest will be going out on her own in a year, and I can tell you this much, if the rest of my kids leave me with the morals and responsibility this one has then I can die peacefully and without regret.

Tam

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03-06-2001, 07:41 PM
Tam Rude Bitch Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: In your face Posts: 8,526	lynch.... their happiness is sooo very much in the front of our minds as we raise our kids. Their ages are as follows: Girl will be 17 this weekend Boy will be 12 in April Boy just turned 7 in December Girl just turned 3 in January I have them in ALL age groups... wanna talk about a bitch keeping them all happy.. YOU try and keep them all happy when dealing with that many in that many different age groups. There are times when their safety has to be put above their happiness and I can't help if I tell them they can't go out with that drunken fool and it makes them unhappy!! It's for their own good. And I am so sorry to inform you of the plain and simple fact that alot of friends and active in sports does not necessarily mean they are happy. On the contrary, there are a ton of kids that are active in sports and have a ton of friends that are far from happy. My oldest daughter is about ready to get her first car.... she was told early on that she is to pay 1/2 of the cost of this car, I am not going to go out and totally buy this car for her as she has to know that shit doesn't come free. So what does she do? Instead of whining, she goes and gets a job and she is putting 1/2 of her check back every payday to put towards a car so when in June, she has a license, she will have a car. We moved in December and my kids had to hange schools...... well he is on the Academic team and very active in the school band, has loads of friends....... but this child was so miserable for about a month that I spent more one on one time with him than I ever have, trying to find out what was bothering him.... talked to principals, councelors.. you name it and I did it all...... I could have played the cop out and just said "oh it's his age" but on the contrary, I went the extra mile to find out what was causing him to be so miserable.... turns out he was being bullied and one of his teachers were giving him such a hard time that he was beginning to fail in school........ this child, who in your scheme of things, should have been happy.... afterall he is active in Band and on the Academic team and has a ton of friends...... well baby, he was the most miserable of all my kids. So your theory on all of this keep them happy thing is not always the case if they have friends and sports and shit like that. My daughter just recently had to write a paper on who inspired her the most...... and I had no idea she was even writing a paper, I found it by accident the other night while cleaning my table off....... do you know who she said inspired her the most? It was not one of her loads of friends. it was me she wrote about....... I sat down and cried like a baby.... here all this time I was unsure anything I said was getting thru to her.... ME, her mom who does things that don't always make her happy.... this Mom who has forced her to see the real world for what it is, this mom who has taught her how to shoot that gun...... taught her that I would lay down and die for her if she is in the right but will not back her in the slightest if she is wrong, who has taight her that if she screws up she stands alone, but if she is in the right, I am right there for her. It was me...... you have no idea how that makes me feel It makes me know I am doing something right as a mom. my kids are allowed to play video games, watch all the "bad" tv shows and listen to all that "bad" music... BUT they are taught that is is NOT reality, reality is the choices they make with the cards they are dealt, and they are taught that the choices they make NOW will follow them always. My kids restrictions are very minimal, as follows.... 1)Always stick to what you belive in, if people make fun of you, so what, they are words and they don't hurt. 2)Don't show me or anyone in my home any disrespect, you are allowed to disagree but are not allowed to do it in a disrectful manner!! 3)For every single action you take there is ALWAYS a reaction, maybe not right now but there is always going to be a reaction, so think before you act. 4)Be big enough to stand up and take any punishment you have coming to you for anything you do that is immoral or illegal, or just plain disrepectful. The only thing in my house that is forbidden to my kids is porn.... not because it is dirty, as I was taught by MY parents. Just for the simple fact I don't think they are ready for that yet.... But how can I look into their faces, ANY of them and tell them that SEX is bad, if this is the case I may as well be telling them that I don't want them....... afterall isn't this how I got them? No way will I ever tell them that sex is bad.. not ever.. but I teach them to be responsible with that as they are with anything else they do in their lives. Ok, I went into long winded mode here... but there are reasons I do what I do with my kids....... my oldest will be going out on her own in a year, and I can tell you this much, if the rest of my kids leave me with the morals and responsibility this one has then I can die peacefully and without regret. Tam ------------------ WebmasterCommerce!! / May the Force Be With YOU!!