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Tam · 03-06-2001, 12:23 PM

We have an economy where people think that they have to have "things"... if we give our children all these "things" then they will love us and go to their rooms and sit on their little computers and listen to their little music and not bother us. Just be quiet, that's all we want these days because we are so mixed up in thinking that the "things" we give them will make up for the lack of other things we SHOULD be giving them.

As teachers we give them "things" , and expect them to learn how to operate these "things" all on their own. Computers, guns, cars, music, tv.... you name it, we have given them "things"!!!!! They get together and being the CHILDREN that they are, with no guidance in teaching them the proper way to use these "things" , they then get together with a bunch of their friends and they teach each other how to use these "things" and with each child, they come up with a new and much more inventive way of playing with these "things".... each lesson bigger than the last and in most cases much more dangerous.

"Look, I just shot up that tree with my new "thing" my dad just bought me"

"Well look what I can do, I can shoot up that house with this new "thing" my dad bought ME"

Oh but wait, I am so much better than you, why I can kill a person with the "thing" that my dad bought me"

"Oh yeah?? Well with the new "thing my dad" (and you may subsititute Mom in here in place of dad, it's not a sexist thing) "why, I can learn to make a bomb and blow up a whole building of people and kill them all!! Oh yes my "thing" is far better than yours"

And who do we point fingers at? Why everyone else but ourselves..... we point at the friends they hang out with, we point at the music we allow them to listen to, we point at the Internet they have access to on the computer we buy them to keep them quiet!! It seemed like a nice idea at the time.... shit people we even point our fingers at their churches and schools........ it has to be the schools fault because they ALLOWED these kids to be picked on.

Good GOD!!!! Spend some time with your kids.... "things" mean shit unless WE as their parents TEACH them to use these "things" properly. At what point do we take responsibility for our own demons and the demons we are making our kids out to be? It's a copout in my opinion.

In MY family, we do without "things" so one of us can be at home with these kids 24/7. we teach them the proper usage of the "things" we buy them. By the age of 8 all of my kids have and will shoot a gun...... yeah go ahead, slap me in the face for that one... we no longer own a gun, but I fully ntend to buy one and it gets locked up and hidden.... HOWEVER, when we did own one, my oldest 2 children were taken out and taught to shoot that gun, they felt the power in their hands and seen the destruction first hand that they can do to "THINGS" so they don't need to wonder what they will do to people, they know!!

We teach our kids about dangers of unprotected sex...... "Oh MY, you horrible person, you teach your kids about guns and sex? You horrible horrible parent" I have had my kids evaluated by Guidance Counselors, simply because I was told I was not right for teaching my kids these things..... so I had them evaluated.... and guess what? I was told I had the most rounded and well adjusted kids they had ever seen.... and this coming to a parent that was abused all her life.... HA!!!!!!

My kids are my whole world and the reason I breathe each and everyday, and if I send them out into the world with the knowledge that for every action there is a reaction, and they go thru life knowing right from wrong then they are better apt to deal with peoples criticism..... and they don't feel the need to kill someone because they SAY bad things to them.

I know I went into long winded mode here.. but I am a very strong believer in the fact that it is mine and my husband's job to turn out well rounded citizens and not for them to learn these things from their friends who have not been taught these things. I am not even saying I am the best parent in the world, I know I am not... but I do know that I can go to bed at night and sleep well kowing I am doing the absolute best job I can do with my kids and also that I know I am going to wake up the next day and be ok, and not worry one of them are going to kill me in my sleep. They know I am here for them... and not to BUY them things just to keep them quiet!!!!

I get so damn tired of all the copouts and pointing fingers.... just know everytime you point ONE finger.... FOUR more are pointing back at you. I have said enough!!

Tam

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03-06-2001, 12:23 PM
Tam Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: In your face Posts: 8,488	We have an economy where people think that they have to have "things"... if we give our children all these "things" then they will love us and go to their rooms and sit on their little computers and listen to their little music and not bother us. Just be quiet, that's all we want these days because we are so mixed up in thinking that the "things" we give them will make up for the lack of other things we SHOULD be giving them. As teachers we give them "things" , and expect them to learn how to operate these "things" all on their own. Computers, guns, cars, music, tv.... you name it, we have given them "things"!!!!! They get together and being the CHILDREN that they are, with no guidance in teaching them the proper way to use these "things" , they then get together with a bunch of their friends and they teach each other how to use these "things" and with each child, they come up with a new and much more inventive way of playing with these "things".... each lesson bigger than the last and in most cases much more dangerous. "Look, I just shot up that tree with my new "thing" my dad just bought me" "Well look what I can do, I can shoot up that house with this new "thing" my dad bought ME" Oh but wait, I am so much better than you, why I can kill a person with the "thing" that my dad bought me" "Oh yeah?? Well with the new "thing my dad" (and you may subsititute Mom in here in place of dad, it's not a sexist thing) "why, I can learn to make a bomb and blow up a whole building of people and kill them all!! Oh yes my "thing" is far better than yours" And who do we point fingers at? Why everyone else but ourselves..... we point at the friends they hang out with, we point at the music we allow them to listen to, we point at the Internet they have access to on the computer we buy them to keep them quiet!! It seemed like a nice idea at the time.... shit people we even point our fingers at their churches and schools........ it has to be the schools fault because they ALLOWED these kids to be picked on. Good GOD!!!! Spend some time with your kids.... "things" mean shit unless WE as their parents TEACH them to use these "things" properly. At what point do we take responsibility for our own demons and the demons we are making our kids out to be? It's a copout in my opinion. In MY family, we do without "things" so one of us can be at home with these kids 24/7. we teach them the proper usage of the "things" we buy them. By the age of 8 all of my kids have and will shoot a gun...... yeah go ahead, slap me in the face for that one... we no longer own a gun, but I fully ntend to buy one and it gets locked up and hidden.... HOWEVER, when we did own one, my oldest 2 children were taken out and taught to shoot that gun, they felt the power in their hands and seen the destruction first hand that they can do to "THINGS" so they don't need to wonder what they will do to people, they know!! We teach our kids about dangers of unprotected sex...... "Oh MY, you horrible person, you teach your kids about guns and sex? You horrible horrible parent" I have had my kids evaluated by Guidance Counselors, simply because I was told I was not right for teaching my kids these things..... so I had them evaluated.... and guess what? I was told I had the most rounded and well adjusted kids they had ever seen.... and this coming to a parent that was abused all her life.... HA!!!!!! My kids are my whole world and the reason I breathe each and everyday, and if I send them out into the world with the knowledge that for every action there is a reaction, and they go thru life knowing right from wrong then they are better apt to deal with peoples criticism..... and they don't feel the need to kill someone because they SAY bad things to them. I know I went into long winded mode here.. but I am a very strong believer in the fact that it is mine and my husband's job to turn out well rounded citizens and not for them to learn these things from their friends who have not been taught these things. I am not even saying I am the best parent in the world, I know I am not... but I do know that I can go to bed at night and sleep well kowing I am doing the absolute best job I can do with my kids and also that I know I am going to wake up the next day and be ok, and not worry one of them are going to kill me in my sleep. They know I am here for them... and not to BUY them things just to keep them quiet!!!! I get so damn tired of all the copouts and pointing fingers.... just know everytime you point ONE finger.... FOUR more are pointing back at you. I have said enough!! Tam ------------------ WebmasterCommerce!! / May the Force Be With YOU!!