Sure, alot of paysites are crap. Alot of any kind of site are crap, including ones financed by $50 million in venture capital. That's the beauty of capitalism... you can get away with virtually anything as long as it makes you money.
However, if you want a sponsor that's going to retain members, don't sign up for shitty sponsorship programs, simple as that. You have as much right to send your traffic elsewhere as they do pawning a shitty product.
As far as TGPs go... it's a science to convert that sort of traffic. You have to first and foremost (as Hun suggested) promote something that is out of the ordinary, something that they want but can't easily get... something unique. Whether it be the content itself or the quantity of it, people WILL pay for porn if they know (not think, KNOW) they can't get it for free anywhere else. Part of the problem is that too many people are promoting the same tired sponsors that anyone who has been around the block has seen promoted 5000 times.
But don't blame the TGP's for their rules, it's how they choose to run their business... and they have the right to do that. When you can start sending massive traffic to sites with a less than 1% recip rate, you too can do whatever the fuck you want to do.
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