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Feeling flawed and incomplete can truly knock someone down and keep them there. Some people go their whole lives like that. It's ashame because it can shut the door on taking chances and doing what you want to do. What do they call it? A bad self-image.
Clearing and integrating Personality Clusters like undesirable and inferiority, which are closely related, would change some core beliefs about ourselves. This would change things at the feelings level too. Spend time too learning to self-accept in all situations.
UNDESIRABLE: This cluster points to being unwanted due to physical appearance or lack of social skills. Beliefs are:
*I'm fat.
*I'm skinny.
*I'm ugly.
*I'm boring.
*My conversation is dull.
*People won't hang out with me because of my race, poor income, low status, education.
*I can't seem to say the right things--I feel so out of it.
*Others don't want me in their circles.
*I feel extremely self-conscious around others.
*I start talking and people just walk away.
*Others naturally judge me and turn off.
*I lack what it takes to be desirable.
*When I open my mouth people tune out.
*I can sense people backing off.
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