12-31-2003, 07:45 AM
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Join Date: Mar 2003
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Originally posted by Furious_Female
I don't mean to offend anyone, so don't take this wrong but.... This thread is just further proof that women like guys who are assholes. Yes I am a woman and I admit there's a lot of truth to that old cliche. It goes for men that like bitchy women too.
There's several "nice" guys in this thread, who would like to have a chance to date angeleyes but they are skipped over completely because guys that are assholes, are more "appealing". Take iceicebaby for example... he's probably the nicest man on GFY (that I know). I've spoken to him on the phone and what you see here, is what you get. He's a flirt but he's genuinely a nice guy. And you know what they say about nice guys finishing last 
Women have egos just like men do. We hate the feeling of rejection and we take it personally, no matter if it's for another woman or for someone's mother. We want to feel like we're the most important person to someone and a guy who plays hard to get, is even more intriguing.
Chances are, if this same 22 year old guy was doting over her, she'd be turned off by that as well. When a guy rejects a woman or whatever the circumstance may be, the woman will focus all of her attention on wondering why he would do this to her, why he doesn't "want" her, why he isn't tripping over his own tongue and moving mountains to be with her. The more abusive and/or uncaring the guy is, the more interested the woman is in him... UNTIL she wins him over and he's dancing to her tune. I will admit, women implore a certain degree of "pussy power" to manipulate men and their emotions. Women say we want nice, mature, loyal, honest guys etc, but the truth is... we more often than not, completely overlook the "nice guys" and waste years of our lives conquering men who will break our hearts and make us an emotional wreck. When a woman finds her "perfect" match, it's a mutual attraction immediately and the head games never come into play. That's when a real relationship occurs. By real, I mean something long term, that doesn't involve the thrill of the chase and airing dirty laundry on a message board.
The 22 year old guy might be immature or maybe he's not. I don't know him. Standing someone up on Christmas or any other day is shitty no matter how you look at it. But then building the relationship after that from an ultimatum, isn't exactly mature either. It's like you would see on Jerry Springer... women saying "If you don't come home with me, it's over" ...Andddd who wants to be with someone you have to hold a gun to their head to be with you? Not me. No thanks! That's just a control tactic. After he's in your control, chances are you'd find other reasons to complain about him.
Moral of the story, never get involved with anyone, male or female, who isn't at the same level of maturity you are at. If you aren't ready for anything serious and want to play high school games like this, more power to you... but don't purchase a Gremlin and expect it to operate like a new Mercedes that you are used to, you won't have the power steering you are acustomed to.
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Guess I'm not the nicest guy on GFY now, that sucks. Anyway I didn't read this whole thread, I posted a nice message or two to AngelEyes since she's a sweetheart but I don't and never do feel like sorting through pages of drama like most people do. I stay drama free and don't even give a fuck to read others drama. |
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