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Herb Kornfield · 12-01-2003, 02:46 PM

Always most important to take care of your children, but, people abuse the system really bad....Here is my tale.

My wife's ex has claimed being broke, having not enough to make ends meet week to week and crying in general about how broke he is. Cant afford gas to drop her off, really was a sad story.

We go to drop off my wife's daughter at her fathers house as usual after a weekend visit. The father again starts his I am so broke routine again with her. I walked over as they started getting a bit heated and asked them both what the deal is.

He tells me that he wants support from her and has been talking to lawyers to sue for back support. Never before was the request for support made to her via the courts.

I asked him how much money is he in need of, what can we work out that helps everyone while benefiting the child most importantly....

He refused any help from me, looked me dead in the eye and told me he was going to bankrupt me, lol.....

We go to court, he gets 3 months back support in addition to the $500 a month plus us covering 100% of the child's healthcare.

Then, he has a new truck, snowmobile, going on a cruise the kid tells us. His girlfriend with 2 other kids are now living there that the girlfriend gets support on, as well....the house he lives in was a gift from his parents. He refinanced the house, another 80k in the pocket.

Got a new deck on his house, tatoos all over, even enrolled in the local community college, goes to the local pubs with his buddies every weekend like clock worrk.

We have come to find that the child is living with his mother, not even in the same house as him. As he is cashing them checks each month.

We have tried evey legal avenue that we can think of to correct this and make him accountable for these actions. Unfornately, the state of PA doesnt see things that way. Once a case is in the system you can drag this out for years with appeals, delays, etc.

Bottom line here, if you are asking for or having to pay money, each party should have to be more accountable for what they take or what they pay. People that steal from children are just scum.

12-01-2003, 02:46 PM
Herb Kornfield Is on the 1 Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Philly Burbs Posts: 4,996	Always most important to take care of your children, but, people abuse the system really bad....Here is my tale. My wife's ex has claimed being broke, having not enough to make ends meet week to week and crying in general about how broke he is. Cant afford gas to drop her off, really was a sad story. We go to drop off my wife's daughter at her fathers house as usual after a weekend visit. The father again starts his I am so broke routine again with her. I walked over as they started getting a bit heated and asked them both what the deal is. He tells me that he wants support from her and has been talking to lawyers to sue for back support. Never before was the request for support made to her via the courts. I asked him how much money is he in need of, what can we work out that helps everyone while benefiting the child most importantly.... He refused any help from me, looked me dead in the eye and told me he was going to bankrupt me, lol..... We go to court, he gets 3 months back support in addition to the $500 a month plus us covering 100% of the child's healthcare. Then, he has a new truck, snowmobile, going on a cruise the kid tells us. His girlfriend with 2 other kids are now living there that the girlfriend gets support on, as well....the house he lives in was a gift from his parents. He refinanced the house, another 80k in the pocket. Got a new deck on his house, tatoos all over, even enrolled in the local community college, goes to the local pubs with his buddies every weekend like clock worrk. We have come to find that the child is living with his mother, not even in the same house as him. As he is cashing them checks each month. We have tried evey legal avenue that we can think of to correct this and make him accountable for these actions. Unfornately, the state of PA doesnt see things that way. Once a case is in the system you can drag this out for years with appeals, delays, etc. Bottom line here, if you are asking for or having to pay money, each party should have to be more accountable for what they take or what they pay. People that steal from children are just scum.