I know alot of you have been asking about dating software, today I was surfing hotscripts.com and came across this one, the only bad part is it is .asp and not cgi or perl so you would need to get a winblows hsoting solution or buy chilisoft asp for linux, this one looked really nice when I looked at the other sites using it, it even has the new video dating feature and they have it on sale right now for $499, not a bad price actually (no I am not affiliated with them in anyway):
http://www.datingsoftware.biz/products.html
Hope this helps out...