|
Premature ejaculation: A third of males
Premature or Rapid Ejaculation is believed to affect between 30-40 percent of males. This frustrating condition can a lot of distress for both partners. But the good news is that it's one of the most successfully treated conditions seen by Psychosexual Therapists - and some of the techniques you can teach yourself at home.
Definitions of premature ejaculation
Over the years many people have tried to give a definition of premature ejaculation - ranging from 'coming within 6 thrusts' to 'coming within 2 minutes' and even 'coming before your partner'. Of course, none of these are sufficient - particularly the last one if you have a partner that likes to take up to an hour to reach orgasm!
The definition I prefer, is that if you come before you want to and you feel you are not able to control it - you are suffering from premature ejaculation (or PE for short). But, bear in mind that most men will come sooner than they'd like on some occasions, particularly if under stress or in situations of very high excitement.
So, I would go on to say that you only suffer from PE if you are unable to control when you come more than 50% of the time.
Some men may only suffer from PE when they're having intercourse.
Some feel they come too quickly whatever the stimulation with a partner.
Others feel they have little control on self masturbation.
Common causes
The 'Point of Inevitability'
Sufferers of premature ejaculation aren't able to recognise, what therapists call, the 'Point of Inevitability'. This is a sensation that occurs just a few moments before ejaculation, and men who don't suffer from the condition are able to recognise this sensation and either stop or change stimulation until the urgency has subsided.
Most commonly, men who suffer from PE will have had it throughout all of their sexual life and won't ever have noticed this 'Point of Inevitability'. There are a number of reasons why this might have happened. It may be that initially sex was always rushed or sex was associated with feelings of guilt or anxiety.
Sometimes men become quick ejaculators because of partner pressure to 'get it over and done with'. Whatever the original cause, the body gets used to responding quickly and rapid ejaculation becomes the norm.
Premature ejaculation is rarely a result of a physical condition. However, remember that whenever your body is under stress of any kind, ejaculation tends to be quicker.
|