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Originally posted by LadyMischief
That's TOTALLY WRONG! Honesty is the best policy.. A woman will have a LOT less respect for you if you tell her some fluff story at first and then the truth later. How is that establishing a precident for honesty in a relationship? Either she should accept what you do right off the bat, or it's time to move on.
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not necessarily.
sometimes it's better to let sleeping dogs lie for a while.... if someone gets to know you for YOU first, versus knowing you for what you DO, it often is much less of a shock.
The only people outside of the industry I tell straight up front that I'm a pornographer are people I could care less if I ever see them again or people I know without a doubt will have no problems with it whatsoever.
I'm not saying anyone should try to pull off some fluff story, but there's ways to explain what you do without actually saying it.
Sometimes tact is still required. This goes for prospective relationships both romantic and casual. If I'm meeting some friends of some friends, I am not going to blurt out "Hey, I'm in porn!"..... it turns people off, and puts your friends in an uncomfortable position whether they know about it beforehand or not.
100% honesty up front is not always the best policy. Situations and people vary.