Furious_Female

That is a great article. I can tell the author is also very bitter, which is perfectly normal.

Yes I am an American woman and I think that article sums up the past 30-40 years of American relationships. But I don't agree that marriage is a bad thing. I agree with galleryseek, it's people that make a marriage bad, not the union itself.

Even though I am a female, I am against a lot of radical feminist ways. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate and enjoy my freedoms and equality, but sometimes it goes too far. The difference between humans and other species is our intelligence and emotions, as well as our longer life span to dwell on everything that happens during the course of our lives. I don't believe humans are meant to go all through their life, continuously changing partners. It's not healthy physically, mentally or emotionally. It might be fun and interesting at times... but we as humans, build and grow our whole younger years, towards our retirement and senior years. It will be interesting to see what the mental state is, of the early pioneers of women's lib are today and in the next 10-20 years, after they broke away from tradition. Are we going to have a large number of elderly single people, wishing they had someone to share their last years with and also have a history to look back and reflect upon or are feminists happy about what they did with their lives?

Women have come to the conclusion that they don't NEED men supporting them financially etc. But finances aside, I think it's much more pleasant to have someone permanent to share things with. When you choose to remain single and be with many different people all through your life, you are choosing to spread yourself thin. You're never able to experience a lot of good with one person, because you don't have enough time to do so.

People getting married today, are doing it for the wrong reasons. They want a fancy wedding, they are pregnant, they want to better their material world etc. Then they get divorced for all the wrong reasons as well. Not to sound like Dr. Phil, but I believe divorces have to be earned. They come easier than the marriage itself.

Also, women who divorce their husbands and keep their children from them, are fucked up. They are doing it to be spiteful... UNLESS they have good reason to keep them away..abusive etc. I think it should be maditory, that the father gets as much time with them, as the mother does. A child NEEDS both parents and any new step daddy, will NEVER be an adequate replacement. Children want their REAL dad. Then women with custody, that move away to another state to "start a new life". That's pure bullshit... that's not fair to the father or to the kids. These women are playing God with their children's emotions and psychological well being. Even though women give birth to a child, they have NO right to control when a father sees his kid. Women use their kids as a weapon to punish their ex husbands with. They turn into pawns and trump cards. I feel bad for a lot of guys that get screwed financially and when it comes to their rights as fathers. While it's true there's umpteen deadbeats dads in the world, there's also quite a few that are stripped of their rights, because judges always rule in the mother's favor. Very few women can even make it as a single mother, yet want full custody and expect the fathers to just pay for kids they only have a small percentage of the time. I will admit, women are FUCKED up. And to the women that say "Well my ex is an asshole" Why did you have kids with him then? He wasn't a creep when you had sex with him. People are having kids for all the wrong reasons too. Somewhere along the line, people picked up the idea that it's their obligation to have kids after they are married. WRONG!

I'd never marry someone that believes divorce is ok. Not because it's against their religion or anything, but because they personally want to have a lasting commitment with one person. And again, don't get me wrong... divorce is acceptable under certain circumstances like abuse, cheating etc. But I believe this is the choice people made and they should have to stick with it and earn a divorce. Do everything and anything possible to make it work, before giving up. These days, people do things, because there are no harsh consequences to their actions, unless of course, you get screwed financially or lose your kids. Again, the men are usually on the receiving end of that, which is wrong. I'd never divorce my husband, take his money and his kids. Some people might be like, yeah right all women say that. Well it's true... I couldn't live with myself. The only thing I would want out of a divorce, is what I came into the marriage with and half of what I contributed during it's duration. That's fair enough I think. But again, I wouldn't get divorced. People might say, no one ever expects they would get divorced... but the difference between me and others, is that I would know who I am marrying, know what they want and expect from life and not settle for anything less than what makes me happy.

So many women have ruined a lot of good guys... it's sad. It really is... so my solution to this epidemic isn't stop getting married... it's to start damage control instead. Things don't have to be as complicated and over analyzed as society and the media have made them out to be. I think we need a little more stability in our lives all the way around... but highly unlikely to happen in a generation of children of divorce and/or born out of wedlock.

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