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Originally Posted by WannabeMiddleMan
You're spot on! My approach I'm trying to agree with them, trying to show them I agree, basically the common people pleaser approach.
With your approach, you're making a joke, you're testing their humour and you're not agreeing with them.
Dam, this is tough. My approach has been straight forward, which seems boring and uninteresting.
Your approach is extremely creative, and grabs their attention.
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Its how i am as a person though. I just say random shit and for whatever reason, it won't come off as offensive. Whatever you do, it has to be you saying it.. not a character you create. It has to work with your personality and your voice.
But yeah, you get it. Not agreeing. Not complimenting. Not buying drinks. Not kissing ass. Not bragging. Not showing off. Just making fun conversation without showing direct interest in them and at times, making fun of them a little in a lighthearted way. The whole time, they never really know if you're interested or not, if you like them or not, if you're trying to get with them or not... they just know you're fun and they want to spend more time with you. Then they start qualifying and selling themselves to you. That is the start of the perfect pickup.
Of course there are more steps to take things further, but its super hard for people to just master initiating the conversations, keeping it going, keeping the right tone, not showing too much interest and making it fun.