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Originally Posted by Elli
Ok, let's assume all of the comments were compliments. If they are truly compliments, then it would be good form of her to reply to each and thank the person. Is she supposed to ignore the compliments and continue on with her day? Or is she supposed to respond to each and every one? If this behaviour is truly meant as a compliment, then ignoring them makes her a complete bitch.
When men do this "complimenting" from the sidelines, what is the appropriate response?
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There is A LOT that goes into this psychologically.
Two men say 'hello beautiful.'
Both feel a sexual attraction towards her. One sees her as a piece of meat and the other a human being. Hard to separate that.
Women also 'want' attention. Sexual attention too. Or else they wouldn't dress they way they do. They don't want it from people who see them as objects or want physical contact without permission etc... But they do want to be seen as desirable.
Then there are varying degrees as to how much each woman wants. Some women want people to look and that's it. Within JUST THAT behavior some want discreet looks and some want blatant stares. Some want guys to offer phone numbers.
But back to your question. I don't think she needed to answer anyone because she was walking fast without making eye contact. If she walked into the store and the clerk said hello beautiful then she should say hello and move on to whatever business she wants with the store. If the clerk continues on this point without getting any positive feedback from her he should stop or else he is harassing her.
So many fine lines, many different opinions of harassment even among women.