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I think that at the end of he day, I ran away from home when I was 16... I finished school on my own. I worked hard. I learners instantly that life is not "fair" and it's not "unfair" ... it's simply whatever you make it. I personally don't care about a single person begging for attention with his "woe is me" story. What bothers me most is all of the people that jump in an validate self destructive behaviors, horrible attitudes and general laziness as if there is nothing that can be done about it.
Life is what you make it.
You are always the sum total of your will, your determination, your drive and your ambition.
There is nothing wrong with being poor. I have respect for anyone who tries... or anyone that has found happiness in life. I've been through hell in my life and it just made me focus more. It made me try harder and it made me work harder. It took me many years of giving up everything, risking everything and spending 50k a month on absolutely nothing before I discovered what made me happy. For me, it was meeting my wife and falling in love with her. I felt that for the first time in my life, I was content. After that, I just sort of mellowed out. I suppose had we had kids, it would be different but after 10 years, we got a divorce. I did however always take that lesson with me. A new tricked out BMW M5 is still just a car. A penthouse is still just a place to sleep and eat. And I learned that if you are doing anything to impress others, you aren't happy.
But no matter where I am at financially, no matter how good I am doing or how bad I am doing... I always know it's 100% my doing and accept full responsibility for it. Things got bad for me a few years back and I was writing text for Sly. I wasn't bitching, complaining or whining, I was grateful even though it was very little money. In a short period of time, my income was well into the 5 figures a month again. You do what you have to, you swallow your pride, you practice humility and you do what it takes. You don't hitch and whine and complain and continually examined that being an abject fairer is never your fault... that is the very root of the problem to begin with and the very reason the cycle continues. Perplex congratulating him instead of telling him to man the fuck up simple reinforce the worst behaviors which is likely why he created this thread to begin with. If you want to help him - tell him to pull his head out of his ass.
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