Originally Posted by kane

Same here. Most places only seem to automatically add it for groups. Not too long ago a friend of mine got married. The company that did the catering for the reception added a gratuity to the bill and it actually became a big point of contention. They would have understood had there been a lot of service during the reception, but basically you chose what you wanted for your meal, they brought it and your beverage out and that was the last anyone ever saw of them. There was an open bar with a bar tender, but after the initial service there were no other servers. If you wanted more water or anything to drink you had to get it yourself.