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Originally Posted by GspotProductions
Speak to her, in the nicest of ways, let's not forget, she's probably at the end of her tether, the child has probably been taking the toll on the relationship & her life. Not your fault, although, you could be the help of life her family & the child needs.
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I can tell you, hands down, this is the best approach.
Its obvious that you don't know anyone close or have family members with mentally disabled children, but the strain it puts on a family is horrendous--you have absolutely NO idea what these parents go through and I can tell you from watching both close friends and family have to deal.
So if you going to be tough Internet punk and show up demanding their child STFU during the day, they will most likely make your life hell. Believe it or not, everyone will be on their side if you take this to any authority.
Here is a solution, not guaranteed, but will help in the right step.
1) Go buy a toy you think the kid will like, obviously something that doesn't make sound. Make sure it's not expensive because a good chance it will end up in the trash.
2) Buy the parents a "welcome gift" something like cookies or some shit. Can be a picture of a stick on the back of a trashcan lid, but its the thought the counts.
3) Try to find a time when BOTH parents are home, don't corner one or the outcome will be worse than it is now... wife to husband "your not going to believe what that asshole that lives behind us did today..."
4) Most important - explain your circumstance in a way that you are not trying to make them fell sorry for you and ask them what they can do to help you
As long as you communicate in terms of POSITIVE - REQUEST- POSITIVE - FACT - POSITIVE - CLOSE THE DEAL you will most like get some help.
How? Like this...
Hi, not sure we met, I'm from over there... welcome to the neighborhood.
Congratulations on moving in, I'm sure you and your family will love it here! (positive)
I actually wanted to talk to you and your spouse, do you have a few moments? (request)
I love your house, I masturbate to the wall paper everyday! (positive)
I work from home and have been for the last 47 years. This is how I earn a living and unfortunately it's been a bit loud for the past few days and difficult for me to concentrate and get work done (fact)
I'm glad that you let your kids outside to play, I can't believe most parents these days that sit their kids in front of a TV or iPad for hours on end (positive)
However, I can't imagine how hard it can be sometimes, but I wanted to ask if you can help me a bit when it comes to him screaming in the back yard?
I know he likes to go outside and play, just like other kids and they tend to get loud, but I typically work from like 9 to 7pm, but maybe to help I can come out during the day for a little bit and play catch or something with him until his brother gets home from school? (close the deal)
Know the parents are not going to want to have you play with their kid, but will help them think you are actually trying to help.
Again, as long as you approach this with "what can I do to help..." instead of "you help me" you will most likely get some instant support