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Originally Posted by Rochard
And the problem is?
Kidding aside, sounds like a crappy school and a lack of parental supervision. Oh, I'm not kidding myself; I know my kid will be sneaking out clothes out of the house that I'm not aware of.
Honestly, tonight I went to the local high school for the football game - Friday Night Lights and all of that stuff. The dress code after school hours is relaxed and I did question some of what I saw. But I also think society has changed in a big way. I didn't see anything that was outrageous.
Some kids will always be like that.
I'm was friends with a family that had three boys and one daughter. The parents seem really nice, mother weighs more than I do (and I'm overweight myself), but they don't pay any attention to what their kids are doing. All three boys are not yet legal drinking age and on probation. I'm not sure how a parent can fail to that degree.
We decided about a year go to keep our kid away from their kids.
I've never punished my kid. It's not difficult - teach your kid to be respectful and how to have fun doing it. If your driving and swearing at all of the crappy drivers, well, your kids picks up on that. Instead be calm and point out what the other driver is doing wrong and hope your kid picks up on that also. If my kid ever steps out of line I'm not afraid to raise my voice, although I never ever get angry.
I take it back - i have grounded my kid... for bad grades last year.
And I'm not sure I'm not the perfect parent either.
My kid's school isn't all digital, but there has been some discussion about it at the high school level - which is (gasp!) a year and a half away. However, they do have a computer lab and do a lot on computers.
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As far as dress stuff goes. I don't really care what they wear. I'm sure our parents thought some of the stuff we wore was obscene, but to me it is kind of a symptom of a larger problem, or at least one of many symptoms.
I have friends who rarely punish their kids and when they do it is pretty lightly and yet they have great kids that do well in school, are respectful etc. For me it is about communication. If your kid screws up and you sit them down and explain to them why what they did was wrong and why they shouldn't be doing that, it can go a long ways with them.
My brother's soon to be ex-wife, and I'm sure many other parents, don't do that though. Instead of explaining why he are wrong when he screws up, my nephew's mom works hard to come up with excuses for why it isn't her son's fault and that he is really the victim here.