I really think you are looking at this all wrong. In my experience, what you both DON'T want out of a relationship seems more important than what you DO want.
I don't know if it's age or experience, but I stopped looking for what I WANT versus what I DON'T want, and that seems to work alot better.
Things you DO want seem to be easier to compromise and agree on than what you don't want.
Take it for what it is...
