Put up a pay wall - charge googlebot $0.20/month to index each your web pages. Your website may be open to the public like a place of business but you have the right to control the use of the premises. If googlebot trespasses without paying call the "internet police"

This is a remote scenario and maybe unenforceable but the point is clear; if you want to use my work to your benefit Googlebot -- PAY. What would be the outcome of this unlikely scenario? Google would only pay for 5% of what they index now. Would they pay the tubes for the "privilege" of indexing their web sites? Maybe, Porn Tubes offer "free (sometimes infringing)" content but what they have is oft requested by Google's searchers.

It's a losing battle (for content producers) as long as you allow paying members to download your content, as this is inevitable. Streaming technology is expensive to acquire and use but your content is not distributed in an easily copyable form encouraging this whole problem. What's done is done but to keep shooting yourself in the foot and complaining about is makes little sense.

If you say you are between a rock and a hard place that is understandable -- fight to the death or bleed out waiting for help that never arrives -- not a pretty scenario ...